‘Bleaching is a survival technique’ I say this because as a dark-skinned girl growing up in the western world I understand the pressures of society. The same goes for getting a relaxer and wearing a weave. It’s a survival technique we as black women have adopted to live in a society which upholds European beauty…
Author: mulan Itoje
Curious Emotions #SelfCare Sundays 7
‘We need to be curious about our emotions. We need to know a little bit about something to be curious. So get to know your emotions’. Brene Brown In the time I gave myself I accepted my feelings. The vulnerability, the fear, the fact that I am not perfect. I had no idea as to…
Time #SelfCare Sundays 6
‘The most valuable gift you can give yourself is time’. Thats what I needed to do. I needed to give myself time to once again adapt and adjust to me. Figuring out who I am without the labels and attachment. I could only do so by reclaiming my time. Learning how to say no, learning…
Vulnerability #SelfCare Sundays 5
‘I live in the space of vulnerability’ Iyanla Vanzant My first counselling started with laughter. Humouring my pain was what I was used to. Less than 3 minutes in and I was in tears. I cried and cried and cried and cried. For me and my ancestors, I cried. It shook me to my core…
Solitude #SelfCare Sundays 4
We go from our 20 to our 30s without a pause. There comes a point in your 20’s where you stop yolo’ing and start adulting. Ugh. I think we confuse adulting with maturity. Gaining more responsibilities does not automatically mean you are growing or evolving. It only means you have more possessions and possession is…
Find Your Words & Find Your Power #SelfCare Sundays 3
My understanding of my dads abuse and abuse in general was evolutionary for me. I had gone so many years with self blame and guilt but now I was set free. Knowledge is power. Find the words and find your power.
Acceptance #SelfCare Sundays 2
‘Did you want to die?’…’No, I just didn’t want to hurt anymore.’ To discover ones purpose one must be able to think clearly. 2017 was a break through year for me. I had a chance to stand still and look at life as if I had already lived it. Truth be told I had lived….
My Mental Health Journey #SelfCare Sundays Intro
*Disclaimer: These posts were written last year (2017) Visuals shot (2018). I write to release Self Care Sundays is a 3 part series on my journey around mental health. My understanding of depression and anxiety. My deep need for self love and radical self care. I had a lot of my friends and followers ask…
Notting Hill Carnival
Long Love Nottinghill Carnival Long Love Notting Hill carnival inspired by the beauty that is carnival. Following the yearly negative reports on Notting Hill carnival and Brexit…I decided to get a team together and promote the right parts of carnival. The largest street festival in Europe originated in 1964, as a way for the Afro-Caribbean…
Summer in Nicce
My Favourite Summer Nicce pieces London in the sun is a beautiful place to be! Taking us into the warm season is Nicce SS16 collection. I decided to put together my favourite summer Nicce pieces. Their loose fitting summer dress patterned with a new palm print; Perfect for the chilled out occasions summer provides. I…
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